Rewire for Desire™Get your sexy back.
Feel like yourself again. Desired. Wanted.
- Self
- Body
- Relationship
- Emotions
- Receiving
"I am alive, truly happy and my marriage is fantastic now with great sex!"K.W., Artist
Private · Science-based · Shame-free
Dr. Lori C. Ebert · PhD in Health Education · TEDx Speaker · 20+ years of coaching, 500+ clients
TEDx Speaker
How Orgasms Cause World Peace
Dr. Lori took the TEDx stage with a bold idea: pleasure and connection change more than our bedrooms. They change how we treat ourselves, each other and the world.
Watch the talkMidlife isn't a crisis.
It's your turn-on point.
It felt like someone flipped a switch.
One day you wanted him. Then, almost overnight, you didn't. Maybe you didn't want anyone, or anything.
- You still love your partner, but lately you feel more like roommates.
- You go along with sex for his sake, and it feels like one more chore.
- Your body won't cooperate the way it used to: dryness, discomfort, numbness, or an orgasm that won't come.
- You don't want to be touched, and then you feel guilty for it.
- You look in the mirror and don't recognize yourself. You miss feeling sexy. You miss feeling desired.
- You're exhausted. You give to everyone, and there's nothing left for you.
You're not broken, and you're not alone. Your desire isn't gone. It's wired wrong, and wiring can change.
You've tried. Here's why it didn't stick.
Maybe you started hormone replacement therapy (HRT). It helped your sleep and your hot flashes, but your desire stayed flat. Maybe you read the books, tried the supplements, or heard "use it or lose it" and felt worse.
Desire in midlife isn't one problem with one fix. Hormones matter, and your doctor is the right person for that part. But desire also lives in how you see yourself, how your body feels, how safe you feel with your partner, how much you're carrying, and whether you feel any joy at all.
Those are your five Turn-Ons: Self, Body, Relationship, Emotions and Receiving. When hormones drop, your Turn-Ons don't disappear. They switch off. And when even one is switched off, a pill or a cream can't reach it.
Desire doesn't just disappear. It's a pattern your brain learned, and patterns can be rewired. That's the science of behavior change, the heart of my PhD in Health Education. I call it Rewire for Desire™. Let's turn them back on.
Five Turn-Ons.
One energized, sexy woman.
Rewire for Desire™ works on all five Turn-Ons that shape desire in midlife, so you're not fixing one while the rest pulls you back.
This work helps you turn off codependence, people-pleasing, over-giving and sexual shutdown, and turn yourself back on.
Self
I don't recognize myself anymore.
You know who you are now and what you want, and you say it out loud.
Body
Tired, dry, numb, not at home in your skin.
You feel alive and turned on in your body again, and know how to work with its changes.
Relationship
Roommates. Sex as a chore or a duty.
Connection without pressure, and touch you actually want.
Emotions
Running on empty, giving to everyone.
Boundaries, rest, and energy left over for you.
Receiving
Strong for everyone, leaning on no one.
You stop carrying it all alone. You let your people, and your faith, hold you.
Which Turn-On is switched off?
Find out which archetype you're living in right now, which Turn-On got switched off, and get your Turn-On Plan with 3 steps to turn it back on tonight.
Your ultimate goal?
Become a Sextacular™ Queenager.
All five Turn-Ons, switched back on at once.
- Sovereign Self
- Radiant Queen
- Erotic Lover
- Liberated Soul
- Magnetic Woman
Sexy is the start.
Sextacular is the upgrade.
Feel sexy naked.No ego, no layers, just you.
"We learned more in our first session than we did in a year of therapy!"
C.B. & R.B., Health Entrepreneurs
"We got married! He is not the man he was a few years ago. We finally have communication skills."
T.M., Salon Owner & Mother
"I'm feeling brave, strong and authentic!"
J.H., Project Manager
"I was so disconnected from my feelings and my body's signals. They came online this time last year and it has been so enlivening!"
C.W., Hairstylist
Your first 90 days.
One Turn-On at a time.
Each month brings one theme, so you grow step by step instead of all at once. Month-to-month, cancel anytime.
What you get every month
- Your starting pointYour archetype, your switched-off Turn-On, and your Turn-On Plan with your first 3 steps.
- Live coachingLive group coaching on Zoom, Tuesday evenings at 6pm Arizona (8pm Eastern, 5pm Pacific), with replays.
- Rituals and practiceGentle yoga, Pilates stretching and guided meditations, plus pleasure practices and full and new moon gatherings.
- Your workbook and meditationsA monthly workbook and guided meditation pack for that month's theme.
- SisterhoodA private community inside Sextacular™ School, for women who get it.
- Private time with Dr. Lori1:1 sessions are included in The Mirror (one a month) and The Portal (two a month).
Start where you are. Rise from there.
Month-to-month. Upgrade or cancel anytime.
Doors open Sunday, January 10, 2027
First LIVE call: Tuesday, January 12, at 6pm Arizona (8pm Eastern, 5pm Pacific).
Only 25 founding spots, and the founding rate ends when doors open.
Join the waitlist and you'll hear first.
Join the waitlistThe Circle
$77 / month
- Sextacular™ School access
- Live group coaching
- Workbook and meditation pack
The Mirror
$333 / month
- Everything in The Circle
- A private 1:1 session with Dr. Lori
- Ritual Kit Guidebook
- The Mystic Circle
The Portal
$555 / month
- Everything in The Mirror
- 2 private 1:1 sessions with Dr. Lori
- Your Soul Code Report
- A 1:1 Soul Reading
The Witness · $33/monthJust want the library of replays and resources? It opens Jan 10 too.
Join the waitlist for WitnessPrivate Priestess
VIP Mentorship
Private, one-on-one mentorship with Dr. Lori C. Ebert, for the woman who wants to go all in.
Request a private conversationDr. Lori C. Ebert
Dr. Lori C. Ebert holds a PhD in Health Education (the science of behavior change) from the University of New Mexico. She is a Sexual Wellness Expert and Relationship & Sexual Wellness Coach with 20+ years of coaching and 500+ clients. Her TEDx talk, "How Orgasms Cause World Peace," made a bold case that pleasure and connection change more than our bedrooms.
She has spent years helping women and couples rebuild desire and connection by working on the whole woman. She created Rewire for Desire™ because she saw the same pattern again and again. Women were treating one Turn-On while the other four pulled them back.
"Love is the juiciest thing we've got! Life is short and meant to be fun! I want you to fall in love with yourself, love your body, desire toe-curling ecstasy and Make Love to Life!"
~ Dr. Lori
Before you say yes
When does it start?
Doors open Sunday, January 10, 2027, and the first live call is Tuesday, January 12. Join the waitlist or take the 2-minute quiz, and you'll hear first.
Is this normal? Is it menopause?
Very often, yes. Losing desire in perimenopause and menopause is one of the most common things women search for. It's real, it has reasons, and you're far from alone.
I'm already on hormone therapy (HRT). Will this help?
Yes, and it works alongside it. Many women find hormones help their sleep and hot flashes but not their desire. The 5 Turn-Ons work on everything hormones can't reach.
Is this medical treatment?
No. This is education and behavior-change coaching from a PhD health educator. It complements your doctor's care and doesn't replace it.
Do I need a partner?
No. Desire belongs to you, partnered or not. Many members are single, divorced or dating again.
Will it ever come back?
For most women, desire changes rather than disappears. The work is learning what turns you on now, not chasing who you were at 30.
How much time does it take?
Live group coaching on Zoom, Tuesday evenings at 6pm Arizona (8pm Eastern, 5pm Pacific), plus short practices you fit into your week. Every call is recorded.
Can I cancel?
Yes, anytime. It's month-to-month with no long contract.
Which path is right for me?
Start with The Circle and upgrade anytime, or book a free 15-minute Rewire Call and we'll decide together.
Show up, do the practices, and if you don't feel a real shift in your first 30 days, tell me and we'll work together to make it right. And you can cancel anytime, no questions asked.
Your Turn-Ons aren't gone. They're waiting.
Doors open Sunday, January 10, 2027, with only 25 founding spots. Join the waitlist to hear first, or start with the 2-minute quiz to find your archetype, your switched-off Turn-On and your first three steps.